How to declare yourself gay to your parents who are strictly religious

You have recently realized that you are within the realm of LGBT people (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transsexual) and you are not sure if you should tell your parents or not, as they might disapprove. 

Finding out your sexual orientation can be a confusing, fearsome and difficult time. Likewise, this increases when your parents are very religious people. 

Likewise, it can be very difficult to overcome the emotional response you will have when you reveal this news to them. It will not be easy, but if you think it's the right thing to do, then you should declare your sexual orientation to your parents. 

To do this, we will give you some tips to help you maintain your identity with dignity while accepting respectfully the religious opinions of your parents.

1. Be careful.

There is not enough emphasis on this step. Think of a realistic set of reactions that could happen and determine what will most likely happen. On the other hand, do not tell them if you are sure that they will reject you, especially if you do not have a place to go.

This may be different if you have a place where you can stay or if you have money to support you financially for a while.

2. Think about which parent you can tell first.

If you get along better with your mom, then tell her. To do this, you can tell him that you have something important to tell him privately.

3. Schedule a moment to talk without distractions.

The best thing to do is to schedule a time to talk to your parents in private, as it is a delicate matter and is not an issue that you should communicate at the Christmas dinner in front of the whole family, for example. Your parents need to have an opportunity to receive this news, react, respond, etc. Without a hearing before them.

4. Calm down before you tell him.

For this, you can breathe deeply or perform a prayer. Either way, gather your thoughts and have sources of support in case the situation is exalted.

5. Tell them.

Talking around will simply scare them. Say "Mom, I love you and I wanted to tell you that I'm bisexual" or "Dad, I'm a lesbian". With this, your part of the conversation will be over, so what follows is to see your reaction.

6. Watch their reaction.

Your reaction may vary, they can accept it completely or they can kick you out of the house. However, usually the reaction that parents usually have is an average. If they accept it, then problem solved. If you do not accept it, do not be afraid and retreat, but only do it if you have to.

7. Negotiate

When your parents have accepted your sexual orientation, talk to them about what they will approve and what they will not approve. With this, you will keep a home and your parents could grant you independence so that you have a relationship.