Bisexual girls confession: the world is not only a man and a woman or husband and wife

Dear, inviting you to think differently with us, whether the performance of gender can be varied and walk between the spectrum, in love, we love each other's soul or physiological gender?

T is my classmate, in the graduation years after an encounter, she was holding a fellow partner. For me, it was the first time I had witnessed my friend's experience in front of me. At the beginning of the month, I asked her if she could accept my interview, and she promised to be quick, but anonymous.

After seeing the face, for my first question: "as a homosexuality, what is the feeling that you are confused by the opposite sex?" She laughed that she was actually bisexual, let me be surprised: how even my friends So do not understand? (Recommended reading: gender outside the binary world: embrace differences make the world more beautiful)

It seems to be an unfavorable start, but she goes on to say that in her view, everyone may be bisexual: "but you have not met the right person."

"So I think this assumption is not true ah, my assumption is that people around the world are bisexual, I think the extreme people in the balance is very small, everyone in the middle of the spectrum swing."

"I can not accept the kind of muscle that is very masculine type, I prefer a little boy, so I think for people is ⋯ ⋯ only like do not like, no men or women. You will only be able to meet him as a friend can not be like a partner, so you have to go to the male or female, heterosexual homosexuality, I think it is only social restrictions.

I then asked: "So the love for you is mainly to return to the person itself rather than the gender of the framework above, not because of the gender of this framework I can not like this person, or the characteristics of this person to attract me but because This gender frame I can not like him.It is not necessarily everyone is completely like the male or completely like women, may also encounter that person, regardless of his / her sex is what?

She nodded: "Today, if I confided with me, that is, I have not cooked with him, ah, I like this person, not ... ... even if you are heterosexual, if today there is a girl inexplicably tell you you will refuse Ah, not because as long as the girls tell you you will promise, must be because the person who has what kind of characteristics you like the same, whether heterosexual or homosexuality must be such that homosexuality with gay confession he Will accept, homosexuality will pick people ah! "

I ask the second question - if the sexual tendency of homosexuality is half the day after tomorrow, half is innate, then it will support the marriage equal

T listened to an example: "The last time I saw a show called" TA said, "there is a lesbian, because the relationship between the late comrades, like a child when there are some relatives of the family ⋯ ⋯ anyway she She was so afraid of the male. She had this trauma, do you want to force her to accept the opposite sex? She has been so afraid, and then she likes the same sex, it is so good ah ... ... (recommended reading: gay sports road will See ten films: I am lesbian, I am proud to live)

I hesitated to ask: "But some people will say that homosexuality will not change, is not disguised to encourage homosexuality?"

She heard, thinking slowly said: "I think about ... ... if it is such a heterosexual is not a problem? Because this is very strange yeah, I think a lot of heterosexuality should ⋯ I believe Is there part of the day after tomorrow? Is that if homosexuality can be divided into congenital or acquired, then I think heterosexuality should be divided into congenital days.

"If you grew up in a certain environment, we all tell you how to say how girls, maybe you will like girls, so I think, just because we are too used to heterosexual is normal, so we did not expect heterosexuality may 

There is a congenital day after day, but the problem points to homosexuality with the day after tomorrow this thing.I like my first question to answer, I think people are walking between the spectrum ah. So perhaps heterosexual only because most of the education, so everyone Push one end of the balance. "

Here, she suddenly said some angry: "Yes, that is why he can not get the protection of the law? If half of the people are the day after tomorrow, that the people you want to do? Do you want them to die is not it? People are born, ah, what do you want them to do? Yes ah, hateful assumptions! If these assumptions to other issues, we will feel very strange friends.

Some can not stand, I quickly into the third question - assuming that children need to have a father in love with the situation of maternal growth, whether the support of marriage or equal?

This is a bit difficult, but other people can not give him love? Relatives can not give him anything love? I would also like to say do not have children, my sister gave me a child to raise Well, do not The child will not sound it?

I mean, my sister if the whole life to do the current work but to have children, it is bound to have no time to take care of the child, then I can help her care ah, right? Can help her to take care of the child, but my sister can not love the child ah, is this the child will not grow sound?

I said: "Because now someone says homosexual marriage can, but can not adopt a child, because the child must be in a man and a woman's wife's wife grow up." (Recommended reading: If there is no comrades in the world, it will be more cold than harmonious)

T pondered a long while: "⋯ ⋯ but still have the personality of couples may be similar? Maybe my father is a very mother's father, mother is also very mother, then they still can not give this child love? Because you define Father's love and maternal love is what? Physiological differences, not including the psychological? 

If it is psychological, then homosexual can ah, there will be more masculine girls with more feminine girls, if they get married they can adopt this See the definition of your father 's love and maternal love, and if so, comrades can also adopt children.

I said: "But if you want to have a man and a woman's words ..." (recommended reading: [Luo Yujia essay] Dear Qu mayor: comrades rights, more than marriage)

T looks like a look of confusion: "But it is so strange ah, so as long as the physical ⋯ father with the definition of maternal love is just a physiological man with a physiological woman, is this? If the definition is so I can not support, because it Veto all the possibilities, I think people in addition to physical and psychological ah. For example, feminine boys can not be a very masculine boys to form a family?

Then his feminine personality can represent maternal love, masculine personality can On behalf of the fatherly love .If this is the definition of fatherly love and maternal love,

why can not they have a child? But according to this assumption that part of the homosexuality can not adopt a child, heterosexual also some people are not qualified If the last time I did not go down with my girlfriend, and finally married with a very mother, the two of us would not have children, because we could only give him two maternal love. "

And three questions answered one after another, T points out a few very interesting phenomenon -

First, as a bisexual, the country actually had to be based on her love is the same sex or the opposite sex and choose to give or not to give the protection of marriage.

Second, the definition of parent maternal love is not enough to be physically absurd, but even if defined as psychological, it may not be excluded from the adoption of homosexuality, but ruled out part of the heterosexual.

This makes me not think, and now the marriage system is not forced to bisexual can only love with the opposite sex, otherwise it will not be guaranteed punishment. But is it not harmful to bisexuality for their own feelings of free will? Do not love the opposite sex can be used as harm to his / their rights of interest?

These contradictory points, exactly T is a bisexual role most prominent, the current marriage system absurdity. She through the life itself to understand the emotion is not only one, but with a multitude of face, show to our real dilemma. (Recommended reading: comrades make me a better person: I am a straight comrades, I am them)

So that the unique life of the people themselves, to prove why we need marriage equal power, because - people will always need a more diverse society to protect everyone.